Behaviors That Might Be Holding You Back

As a leadership coach, I have worked with hundreds of people to help them identify and overcome the behaviors and habits that are holding them back. These behaviors can be anything from being too critical of others to not taking enough risks.

In my book, What Got You Here, Won't Get You There, I identify 20 of the most common behaviors that hold people back. These behaviors can be grouped into four categories:

• Winning too much. This includes behaviors such as being competitive, always wanting to be right, and being unwilling to admit when you're wrong.

• Telling the world how smart you are. This includes behaviors such as bragging about your accomplishments, talking over others, and using jargon to make yourself sound more intelligent.

• Not listening. This includes behaviors such as interrupting others, not paying attention, and not taking the time to understand other people's perspectives.

• Being negative. This includes behaviors such as complaining, criticizing, and focusing on the problems instead of the solutions.

These are just a few of the many behaviors that can hold people back. The key is to be aware of your own behaviors and to be willing to change them.

If you're not sure what behaviors might be holding you back, ask for feedback from your colleagues, friends, or family. They may be able to point out things that you're not aware of.

Once you've identified the behaviors that you want to change, you need to develop a plan for how to change them. This may involve setting goals, making a commitment to change, and seeking support from others.

Changing your behavior is not easy, but it is possible. If you're willing to put in the effort, you can overcome the behaviors that are holding you back and achieve your full potential.

Here are some additional tips for overcoming the behaviors that are holding you back:

• Be patient. It takes time to change your behavior. Don't get discouraged if you don't see results immediately.

• Be persistent. Don't give up on your goals. Keep working at it, and eventually you will succeed.

• Be accountable. Tell someone about your goals and ask them to hold you accountable. This will help you stay on track.

• Celebrate your successes. When you make progress, take the time to celebrate your successes. This will help you stay motivated.

Changing your behavior is a journey, not a destination. It takes time, effort, and commitment. But it is possible. If you're willing to put in the work, you can overcome the behaviors that are holding you back and achieve your full potential.

Here are some specific examples of how to overcome the behaviors that are holding you back:

• If you're a "winner," you can learn to be more collaborative and less competitive. This means being willing to share credit, listen to others, and admit when you're wrong.

• If you're a "know-it-all," you can learn to be more humble and less arrogant. This means being open to learning from others and being willing to say "I don't know."

• If you're a "poor listener," you can learn to be more attentive and engaged. This means giving people your full attention, asking questions, and summarizing what you've heard.

• If you're a "negative person," you can learn to be more positive and optimistic. This means focusing on the good things in life and being grateful for what you have.

Changing your behavior is not easy, but it is possible. If you're willing to put in the effort, you can overcome the behaviors that are holding you back and achieve your full potential.